Partnership in marriages – Part 3.1

Reflective listening Reflective listening is a tool used to promote connection between people. It’s presupposition is that two people in relationship would so value the connection they have with each other that they would actively seek to strengthen it. The corollary...

Partnership in marriages – Part 3.2

Negotiating change / Communicating needs  There are three key steps to negotiating change or communicating needs with a partner. These two concepts are distinct, yet linked closely enough that the three steps provide a sufficient basis for each. These steps are also...

Partnership in marriages – Part 2

The Mentoring Relationship  – Building a Therapeutic Alliance – Key to any kind of developmental work with people is something, from a therapeutic context, called the therapeutic alliance. The word ‘alliance’ simply means a partnership. This is the process...

Prayer is primal

Prayer is such a diverse topic that whenever you try to pin it down in ‘prayer is’ statements, you will always, invariably, miss some of it’s subtlety and nuance. So for the point of clarity, the element of prayer I choose to cover in this blog post is just that – one...

Monday mornings

This is my office every Monday morning. I read, pray, plan and reflect here, at this table, with a view over our back garden. Spring is definitely approaching, as I can hear many bird calls and see the first blossoms appearing on the trees. It’s such a privilege to...

67 Minutes of Generosity

So often I get caught up in the day to day of my own life, it is easy to loose sight of the greater need out there, especially when I am confronted with the immediate need of my own two little ones, who make it very apparent that they have a need with their voices and...

Tongues of fire

(A poem, I wrote at Pentecost in 2018, reflecting on both the ‘arrival’ of the Spirit for the disciples, recorded in Acts 2, and the ongoing work of the Spirit today.)  Tongues of fire A rushing wind, Tempest, Tumult, Peace. Fire!   Boughs break,...

Camp Kaleidoscope Day Event – 2 June 2018

At 06h30 on a freezing winter’s morning, I arrived to assist with the set up for the latest Camp Kaleidoscope event at Laerskool Rustenburg. Inez, Isabella and Joshua joined me later in the morning, after the kids morning nap time, so that we could support this event...

May Newsletter 2018

So, “how are we doing?” I hear you ask. We’re trying a new format for our newsletter this month. Instead of feedback on our family and projects within this post, we are going to provide links to posts that we have written to be ongoing feedback. Just...