August Newsletter 2018

Seasons This week Inez and I have noticed the awakening of nature around us as the seasons shift from winter into spring. We’ve both commented that we’re ready for winter to end and summer to start. It has led me to reflect on the shifting seasons we experience in...

Partnership in marriages – Part 1

This blog series comes as a result of a needs analysis conversation I had towards the beginning of the year with a local church leader. During this conversation the theme of the importance of healthy marriages was raised. This is a focal area for the leadership of...

Partnership in marriages – Part 3.1

Reflective listening Reflective listening is a tool used to promote connection between people. It’s presupposition is that two people in relationship would so value the connection they have with each other that they would actively seek to strengthen it. The corollary...

Partnership in marriages – Part 3.2

Negotiating change / Communicating needs  There are three key steps to negotiating change or communicating needs with a partner. These two concepts are distinct, yet linked closely enough that the three steps provide a sufficient basis for each. These steps are also...

Partnership in marriages – Part 2

The Mentoring Relationship  – Building a Therapeutic Alliance – Key to any kind of developmental work with people is something, from a therapeutic context, called the therapeutic alliance. The word ‘alliance’ simply means a partnership. This is the process...

Prayer is primal

Prayer is such a diverse topic that whenever you try to pin it down in ‘prayer is’ statements, you will always, invariably, miss some of it’s subtlety and nuance. So for the point of clarity, the element of prayer I choose to cover in this blog post is just that – one...

Monday mornings

This is my office every Monday morning. I read, pray, plan and reflect here, at this table, with a view over our back garden. Spring is definitely approaching, as I can hear many bird calls and see the first blossoms appearing on the trees. It’s such a privilege to...

67 Minutes of Generosity

So often I get caught up in the day to day of my own life, it is easy to loose sight of the greater need out there, especially when I am confronted with the immediate need of my own two little ones, who make it very apparent that they have a need with their voices and...

Tongues of fire

(A poem, I wrote at Pentecost in 2018, reflecting on both the ‘arrival’ of the Spirit for the disciples, recorded in Acts 2, and the ongoing work of the Spirit today.)  Tongues of fire A rushing wind, Tempest, Tumult, Peace. Fire!   Boughs break,...